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No it would not be rude to bring up the divorce, children, her age(35) etc.

Cultures can vary within Thailand. But my understanding is that a previously married lady with two teenage kids doesn't get a dowry.

I'm not sure what the personal "it" is. But I've found when making any plans with Thai people, they often change their minds, don't do what they say they are going to do or tell you that will do something and then don't do it. When you confront them "I thought you said you were going to...... !? Why ...

I didn't actually take anything when I went to the the parents.

I'd like to hear about other peoples experiences.

Sometimes people say hurtful things they don't really mean during arguments. Maybe it was just said in the heat of the moment. But sometimes they speak the truth. You'll have to work out for yourself if she really meant to say that.

Thailand is a country that still has some arranged marriages ...

When I got married my dowry was...
200,000 baht cash
50,000 baht worth of gold
2 pigs
10 chickens

We got to keep the gold and the cash paid for the wedding party of 700 people. The pigs and chickens were eaten at the party too.

I negotiated with my sister-in-law the amount before meeting the ...